Relationship Books

Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.”
Oscar Wilde

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples has helped thousands of couples attain more loving, supportive and deeply satisfying relationships. In this groundbreaking book, Dr Harville Hendrix shares with you what he has learned about the psychology of love during more than thirty years of working as a therapist and helps you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.

For this edition of his classic book, Dr Hendrix and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, have added a new introduction describing the powerful influence this book has had on so many people over the years. With its step-by-step programme, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples will help you create a loving, supportive and revitalized partnership.

People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny — but their behaviour often drives away those closest to them. If you’re struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship is for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions — and how to change the way you can respond.

Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.

Through twelve-step work, exercises, and journal-keeping, Pia Mellody’s Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love compassionately and realistically outlines the recovery process for Love Addicts, and the author’s fresh perspective and clear methods work to comfort and motivate all those looking to establish and maintain healthy, happy relationships.

Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent – and you may find yourself in this book Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors Melody Beattie holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.

With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.

In an emotionally revealing way Healing the Shame That Binds You (Recovery Classics) by John Bradshaw shows us how toxic shame is the core problem in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and the drive to super-achieve. The result is a breakdown in the family system and our inability to go forward with our lives. We are bound by our shame.

In Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth John Bradshaw’s compassionate approach shows that many of us have been literally “entranced” by past experiences of counterfeit love, so we unknowingly re-create patterns that can never fulfill us.

Here he provides both the insights and the precise tools we need to keep those destructive patterns from repeating in the present. And then he shows how we can open ourselves to the soul-building work of real love—and create healthy, loving relationships where we can be fully ourselves in every part of our lives.